Aftershock Devotional Series #4:
Overcome Distorted Thinking
How you respond to your spouse’s sexual sin is key to moving forward in the best way possible. But the way you think about your situation is also critical. Distorted thinking might initially relieve your pain because it lets you distance from unpleasant feelings. Sooner or later, though, distress will surface. When you understand distorted […]
Aftershock Devotional Series#3:
Action Steps to Manage Emotions
Last month we talked about feelings of anger, shame, grief, and anxiety in the aftermath of your spouse’s sexual sin. And we highlighted the truth that emotions aren’t right or wrong, they just are. Think of them as warning lights on your car’s dashboard. If you understand what a flashing light means, you know what […]
Aftershock Devotional Series #2: Understand Your Emotions
Learning of a spouse’s sexual sin can cause a wide range of emotions. But learning to understand and work through them will strengthen you. And it will let you devote energy to moving forward with dignity and healing — and hopefully save your marriage in the process. Your emotions matter, no matter what you’re feeling. […]
Aftershock Devotional Series #1: Overarching Principles
In February, we overviewed how to move forward after discovering a spouse’s sexual sin. Maybe that’s your story. Or maybe it’s the journey of a friend or the painful reality for your adult son or daughter, and you want to point them to hope and help. Whatever the situation, we want to give you knowledge […]
Aftershock Devotional Series #1: Overarching Principles
In February, we overviewed how to move forward after discovering a spouse’s sexual sin. Maybe that’s your story. Or maybe it’s the journey of a friend or the painful reality for your adult son or daughter, and you want to point them to hope and help. Whatever the situation, we want to give you knowledge […]
Aftershock: 4 Steps Forward
If you’ve discovered that your spouse is viewing pornography—maybe over years of your marriage—you likely feel as if your world is crumbling. The sense of betrayal can seem overwhelming. You want your relationship to be restored, but there’s no quick fix for what’s happened. Don’t lose hope! As you look to the difficult road ahead, […]
Guidelines for Mature Marriage Communication
Commitment to God is vital in a marriage. Imagine a triangle with God at the top. As you both grow more spiritually connected with God you also become more emotionally and spiritually connected with each other. Agree to listen to each others’ feelings. Teamwork = you are both on the same team. Two guards on […]
Four Loves That Build A Marriage
Struggling to get motivated for another Valentine’s Day? Day-to-day realities of married life can test even the best of intentions to keep up the emotional excitement of romance. But genuine marital love is a multi-dimensional marvel — and romance is just one type of love that sustains a lifelong marriage. So let yourself breathe. Take […]
Good Communication Doesn’t Just Happen: Being Intentional With Your Spouse
Most couples can tell hope-filled stories from their seasons of dating and engagement—of endless conversations learning about each other and dreaming of their future together. Most couples can also tell ordinary-day stories from after the wedding. When hurt feelings crept in. When the talking and dreaming pretty much stopped. And it often comes down to […]
Teamwork in Marriage
How good are you and your spouse at functioning as a unit? To what extent does the concept of teamwork figure into the mechanics of your relationship? It’s a question well worth asking. The concept of Shared Responsibilityis an important consideration for husbands and wives, and that is why it is included on Focus on […]
